Oh dear, there's my inner patriarchy exposed for assuming someone telling a gay guy to take it up the arse for preference equality would be a man. I should have known feminists know more about gay men then gay men.
Yea, as long as they've got the "right" literature, they've got all the answers. I quite liked the "How to Become a Lesbian in 30 Minutes", actually. Reminded me that there were right-on chicks calling themselves "lesbians" even though they weren't. It was a "political statement", not how you swung. Changing the definitions of words is an old con trick.